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My Dear son,
If you ever want to take honest inventory of your life,
Don’t look at your dreams.
Don’t look at your potential.
Look at your tolerances.
Look at what you’ve allowed.
Because more often than not,
Your life isn’t built by what you wanted. It’s built by what you settled for.
Let me tell you something that took me years to learn:
Every bad habit I kept...
Every draining relationship I held on to...
Every goal I failed to meet...
Wasn’t because life was unfair.
It was because I tolerated the things that kept me stuck.
🚪 You Don’t Get What You Deserve. You Get What You Accept.
You don’t end up in a toxic job, or a toxic mindset, or a toxic relationship overnight.
You get there slowly, by tolerating small things over and over again.
You start waking up late, but you don’t fix it.
You hang around people who drain you, but you keep texting back.
You let your mind run wild with negativity, and never confront the thoughts.
One day you wake up...
And the life around you doesn’t feel like yours.
But it is.
Because it’s what you allowed.
“What you tolerate becomes your standard.
And what becomes your standard becomes your life.”
🛑 It’s Time to Raise Your Standards
Let’s be real.
Some of us tolerate:
Disrespect, from others, or ourselves
Laziness, masked as rest
Chaos disguised as hustle
Fear dressed up as caution
Excuses covered in justifications
But hear me.
The moment you stop tolerating mediocrity is the moment your life starts changing.
Not by accident. By design.
You’re not a victim of your life.
You’re the architect of it.
And every day you lay bricks by what you say yes to, and what you allow to stay.
🧠 Here’s a Simple Exercise:
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